All in Encouragement
The conversations among mothers, including myself, often revolve around the perceived loss of our pre-parenthood identity. Yet, I'm starting to see that my creativity is resurfacing in my parenting journey. And motherhood has brought out parts of myself that I never knew existed, ones that have become a central part of who I am.
In those first therapy sessions with clients, I always start with a simple question: “Tell me about yourself.” But here's the twist – this seemingly straightforward question unravels a whole world of complexity.
Go back in time with us as we look back on some of our core memories in our relationships with our moms. Realizing the value in connection takes times and sifting through this journey we call “life.”
Our role as mothers can be summed up in one word: guide. We are a set of experienced eyes for our daughters who have younger eyes. As a result of these different perspectives, we naturally see things differently. But… there are times when our teenage daughters are smarter than us🤷♀️
…I like to feel heard. I like to feel seen even more. When it comes to my best friend, I’d go out of my way to make sure everyone at the mall stops to listen to her crazy coworker's story. Truly… I’d do anything for her because I love her. This got me thinking. Do we have this same attitude toward our daughters? Would we go out of our way to make sure they know they are heard and seen?
When I was in high school, I loved anything that made me feel like I was an adult - respected and valued. In hindsight, I think this meant I wanted the freedom of choice. Truly, the world was my oyster and I wanted to be the one to decide what to do with it…
