Are You Standing in Your Own Way?

Some days it feels like I'm beginning to reach my breaking point. Maybe it’s all this talk about goals and dreams that can be overwhelming. Am I putting pressure on myself to achieve all of my goals as soon as possible? 😣

We only have 24 hours in a day. At least six of those (I hope) we sleep. Eight is probably time spent at the office. Another hour for commuting in traffic. Picking up the kids from school, making and eating dinner, cleaning up dinner, putting the kids to bed… okay, that’s four hours of your night. Then do it all again in the morning, making breakfast, and lunches, and taking the kids to school for another two hours. 

Somewhere amid your crazy schedule you might, just maybe, be able to find a couple of hours of added-up minutes to yourself. Lately, these haven’t been hours of bliss, but more like hours of stress and wondering, "how on earth am I ever going to reach my goals when I can’t even find a moment to sit down and freakin update my bullet journal habit tracker.”

Some days it might feel safer or more comfortable to just stick with your routine and let it distract your mind. The kids are alive, the dog is fed, what more can the world ask of me? Forget about the goals, they probably won’t happen anyway. 

Doesn’t that suck though? 

I’ve sat in anxiety over the inability to find time to work on my own goals, thinking they’ll just have to wait til later in life when I have more time. I will never have more time. The tasks I fill my days with now might be different in a few years, but the day will stay busy. 

Like anything else we deeply care about… we must take ownership of our time and we must take ownership of our goals. 

By ownership, I mean that we must be so invested in us, that we're willing to recognize where we stand in our own way and stop. Recognize there are minutes in the day that go to waste that don't have to. Find them and dedicate them. 

If a dream doesn’t excite you (in other words, if you aren’t willing to sneak off during the day to find any moment to catch it - and I mean any moment) then it’s not a dream. Take it off your list of things to accomplish. It’s not worth your time and stress. 

If what you're spending your extra two hours a day (you know, the ones spread across the day in a matter of minutes) doesn’t help you become stronger, more confident, smarter, kinder, more loving… really if it doesn’t help you become the person you want to be, then it’s a waste of time. 

I’m not trying to stress you out with this idea of ownership - I’m trying to simplify your goals for you. The goals on your “things to accomplish list” are not against you. They aren’t your enemy, but I know it sometimes feels like it when the lack of accomplishment brings you anxiety. 

Rather, these goals are on your side - these goals want to make you feel like the best woman in the world, accomplished, with her head held high. Hang out with them! Sneak off in the middle of the day and don’t tell anyone. Let yourself enjoy the time you have with them no matter how short the minute is. 

You get to decide how you walk into each moment. It’s yours to own. ✨