There's Something About Rory and Lorelai
Itās hard to believe, but Iāve never been much of a TV person, let alone someone who can binge-watch an entire series on Netflix. So, when people were (and still are) talking about how great Gilmore Girls is, I never gave it a second thought š¤·āāļø
However, I began to see short clips on social media and thought there might be something to it. Rory and Lorelaiās relationship somehow felt similar to my relationship with my mom. So, I decided to start with one episodeā¦ but, it couldn't be the pilot because those are always boring, right?
So, there I was, on my couch at 9 pm on a Saturday night beginning Season 1 Episode 7: Kiss and Tell š
Letās just say Iām starting to realize why so many people love this show. Itās SO relatable and a good laugh for both moms and daughters because, letās be honest, both Rory and Lorelai make a lot of mistakes and say a lot of silly things that weāve all probably said and done š¤
A brief summary on Season 1 Episode 7: The new kid in town, Dean, kisses Rory (age 16) at the supermarket. Rory doesnāt feel comfortable telling her mom right away because sheās convinced Lorelai (her mom) wonāt approve. Lorelai finds out about the kiss because wellā¦ moms find out everything. Then, Lorelai gets a little too involved and invites Dean over for movie night. In the end, it all worked out and Lorelai and Rory made it through a major āfirstā in their mother/daughter relationship.
Here are a few key moments in this episode that stood out to me (good and bad):
From the start, Lorelai is very vulnerable around Rory. Their first conversation was about underwear. Then, she was cursing at the broken fridge. Needless to say, Lorelai isnāt trying to be the perfect mom. Instead, sheās just trying to be the best mom she can be. Vulnerability and realness are how she guides her daughter through life.
When Lorelai finds out from another mom that Rory had kissed someone, she danced around the conversation instead of being straightforward with Rory about the news š I am constantly reminded about how important communication is in all relationships. The worst thing you can do is hold something in when itās bothering you. Donāt be afraid to address something difficult when itās for the benefit of the relationship.
After Rory spills the truth, Lorelai stalks Dean a bitā¦ and then invites him over for movie night šæLorelai, no!!! The teenage years are when things start to get personal. Your girl is building a life outside of you and thatās a good thing. Sheās coming into her own. You can be a guide, but you have to let her do the navigating.
Lorelai recognized the need to give Rory and Dean some space during the movie night but stepped in when Rory asked her to. In Lorelai's words, āIām not tryna be a chaperone. Iām tryna be a girlfriend.ā Sometimes, our daughters donāt need boy advice or for us to be next to them every single moment. They simply need us to be available and to feel comfortable coming to you when neededā£ļø
When all was said and done, Lorelai was honest with Rory about how she felt when she found out about the kiss from someone else. Rory felt comfortable to eventually share the whole story and then the two were closer than theyād ever been.
As I said, Rory and Lorelai remind me of my relationship with my mom. We had our ups and downs, but my mom was so open and vulnerable. At times she felt more like a girlfriend. As a teenager, thatās exactly what I needed š
We can learn a lot from this show. Gilmore Girls gets a 10/10 in my book.
